“Justsary”

When kids ten years younger than you are getting in a relationship, should you be alarmed? There was a sickening trend, just a few months ago, of kids publicly proposing to their so-called “forever” and posting about the weeksary, hoursary, and even the very absurd justsary. I was just sitting on one corner then, contemplating if I should be mad, concerned or jealous.

Where do these kids get the courage to do it, to put their hearts out there? How do they know that it’s love already? And why are they in a hurry to get into a relationship?

As someone who has never been in a relationship before, I honestly wouldn’t know what to do if I’d be presented with an opportunity to be in one. See, I don’t even take care of myself. I don’t want to be responsible for anyone else. How can a guy expect me to give him time and effort and affection (cue cringe here) when I’m not used to doing that?

A friend of mine told me that being in a relationship is a lot like having work, only it’s not limited to eight hours a day. Just thinking about it makes me tired.

Also, am I the only one who’s not excited about getting married or having kids? Whenever I see a batch mate or a friend getting engaged, my initial reaction is always this: “Why are they engaged already? They’re too young!”

Yep. Too young. Most of them are older than me and I still think that they’re too young for marriage.

Younger people might ask me, “Don’t you feel old? You’re already twenty-five!” and my answer would be, “No. I don’t.”

When I was a teenager, I imagined getting married at 26 (because it’s my favorite number LOL). I imagined a lot of things, none of which was even remotely close to my reality now.

Maybe it has something to do with my being a late-bloomer. If I have experienced things that a normal person should experience at a certain age, I would probably be satisfied by now and will settle down the first chance I got. But the thing is, I don’t want to settle down just yet. I still have so many things to do. I seriously can’t imagine having kids of my own. The mere thought of it scares me.

But nowadays, falling in love is a race. I’m not sure why everyone’s in a hurry.

And what’s up with the cheesy confessions and proposals? They’re honestly so cringe-worthy! Well, what can you expect from kids? When they grow up, they’ll know better. At least some of them have the guts to do it, and they put a lot of effort into these confessions. I just hope that they learn to refrain themselves from broadcasting everything on social media. If they put themselves out there and they went viral, adults, who frown upon this kind of behavior, will tear them apart like a pack of hungry wolves, especially if they make typographical and grammatical mistakes.

And I hope that they don’t forget about everything else. It’s easy to think that love can make everything better. It can’t. Everything needs hard work and they need to juggle their love lives with the other aspects of their lives.

They fall in love at such a young age. I hope they don’t get too scarred too soon.